This story is from September 3, 2011

Are you being taken for granted?

Misha Paul / Sep 3, 2011, 00:00 IST

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Have you felt that you are always there to offer your help to others, yet when you need them, they are busy? So what you can do about being taken for granted?

It can get tough when people start taking you for granted- at home, at work or in your relationships. Have you felt that you are always there to offer your help to others, yet when you need them, they are busy?
Or that even though you sacrifice your wishes for someone, everything goes unacknowledged or they don’t return any favor? If you keep on listening to people’s problems and understanding them but there is nobody to listen to yours, then you are in trouble.So what you can do about being taken for granted?
Learn to draw a line: Don’t be image conscious always or try to act sweet and nice. Your ‘no’ will not change the world or stop some task from happening. You should know how much you want to do and when
Do not compromise with your self-respect: Have your own set of rules and keep your self respect intact, always. Don’t change, just because people around you want you to change.

Have self confidence and love yourself: That doesn’t mean that you have to be proud and egoistic. Just believe in your ‘no’ so that people around you are ready for a 'no' even next time around.
Talk about it: Never hold a grudge. Be strong and talk to your friend/ colleague/boss about your feelings. But don’t accuse
Do it because you want to: Don’t expect praise or appreciation. If you want to help out someone, go ahead and do the job. Don’t expect people to realize that you are ‘great’.

Don’t assume things: Maybe you are thinking that people are taking you for granted. Look at yourself and see if even you are doing the same with others.
Don’t make people used to your 'yes': This might hurt them in future when they unexpectedly get a ‘no’ from you
It’s a fact that when you say ‘no’ to someone the world doesn’t turn upside down. Know what you want in your life and whether or not you want to do something. Be strong and don't let people take you for granted!

About the Author

Misha Paul

Misha Paul is a copy editor-cum-correspondent at Pune Times. Misha covers fashion and lifestyle, has a lively personality and a passion for reading, and loves to explore fresh leads for fascinating stories.

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